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Anyone want this community? [Mar. 24th, 2011|12:05 am]
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Hi everyone: I want to leave this community. If anyone here wants to take over as moderator, you can have it. Otherwise, I am deleting it.

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Community T-shirt [Jun. 13th, 2009|08:50 pm]
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I saw this and thought of you all.

Men + Women
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A couple like us (sort of) in a comic [May. 6th, 2009|11:20 pm]
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The husband of this couple isn't particularly femme, but this particular strip reminded me of my relationship . . . . with home decor. (And with my boyfriend.)

Check it out: "Home" by Erika Moen.

Does this look familiar to anyone else?

I also think it's kind of funny that the comic is called DAR: A Super Girly Top Secret Comic Diary when it is 1. definitely not top secret and 2. really actually not too girly at all. (At least, its author/protagonist seems rather un-girly to me!) Am I missing an irony bone here or something?
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Mis-bashed? [May. 4th, 2009|01:50 am]
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I came across this post, Queer looks, dirty looks, by Andrea Zanin, one of my favorite sex bloggers. She asks readers to coin a term for being "misbashed," or some other word whose definition would be: “That thing that happens when you think someone’s of a given sexual orientation and then you see them obviously involved with a person of a gender who doesn’t match with your assumption and this upsets you so you give them a dirty look or say something rude to them.”

Seems that couples like us are the most likely to experience such misbashing/hetero-normative-discombobulated awkwardness/[your term here]!

Longer quote from the post:

Pepper is a super-hot guy, and very femmey-looking - you know, cheekbones, luscious lips, the works. He’s lasered all the hair off his body below the eyes. He doesn’t wear pants; only short-shorts and ankle-length raver skirts. He has shoulder-length curly hair, dyed a rich dark blue. He has tattoos of flowers up his arms. He walks like a flamer; he often enough talks like one too. You get the picture. He out-femmes me on a femme day. The only places I can compete are high heels and cleavage.

So, a few examples. When we were together last year in Toronto, we were walking down the street holding hands and a car roared by, coming from behind and passing us. Along the way, someone leaned out the window and yelled “DYKES!”

Um. Not quite. But sort of. I think.

. . . . On the days where I’m feeling more boyish myself, it can get even more interesting - odd looks from dykes who aren’t sure what the heck a short-haired gal in a tie is doing with a male, and hesitant cruising from men who generally perceive dykes as unavailable but think maybe they’re wrong in this particular case because I’m clearly with one. (Of course this is even more interesting given that such a cruise presumes some sort of non-monogamy - correctly - but I digress.)
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singles like us [Jan. 6th, 2009|03:03 pm]
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[Current Music |scissor sisters - she's my man]

I saw a post a little further down somewhat similar to my situation but figured I'd post my own since it's a bit different.

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Early 20th century postcards of masculine women and feminine men [Oct. 16th, 2008|05:10 pm]
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Which is the rooster, which is the hen?

Oh well, the first two are kinda cute!
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What you give returns to you, multiplied... [Sep. 12th, 2008|09:55 pm]
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[Current Mood |amusedamused]

I found this quote today. Let's say ... it applies to more than conventional biowomen.

"Whatever you give a woman, she's going to multiply.
If you give her sperm, she'll give you a baby.
If you give her a house, she'll give you a home.
If you give her groceries, she'll give you a meal.
If you give her a smile, she'll give you her heart.
She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her.
So - if you give her any crap, you will receive a ton of shit."
-- Anonymous
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Crossposted [Aug. 29th, 2008|12:23 am]
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[Current Mood |contemplativecontemplative]

In the interests of trying to revive my own comm:

allybootcamp: A safe, supportive community for LGBTQ folk and their allies to learn about being effective allies; Read more...Collapse )
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dancing [Jul. 8th, 2008|05:09 pm]
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Once I saw these figure skaters on television do a routine where they were both in drag, so the man in the dress was lifting this woman in a suit. When I walked into the room I did a classic double-take -- Whoa, is she really lifting him?! . . . . oh, that's a guy!

That's what I thought of when my boyfriend and I decided to take a swing dance class. We intentionally went to an inclusive, gender-free dance studio, so they say "leader and follower" instead of "man and lady" or whatever. The class is a lot of fun. What makes it weird for me is that I'm learning the following part. Eventually, we want to be able to do ALL the crazy awesome flips they do in swing (yep, we're in this for the long haul) and we figured that would be more possible if I were the follower, because I'm smaller than him.

Part of me hates being the follower. I wonder what assumptions are being made about me. People have always assumed that I lead in dances. Yes, I'm female, but I'm usually taken for a boy in het spaces and a butch in queer spaces. So it's very odd for me to go to this class and present myself as the follower.

On the other hand, I'm finding that there are perks to following. Mostly it's that he is a better dancer than me: it's easier for him to learn dance moves, so it's more handy if he leads. Learning dance moves has often frustrated me, and part of that is because I've always learned lead. Following is easier! (If you're not wearing heels, anyway.)

I would also like to learn the lead part, though, so we can switch places mid-dance. Apparently swing is a great style for that.

Does anyone here dance? How does that affect your gender? Or does leading/following have nothing to do with gender for you? (Obviously being feminine doesn't mean being a follower, either.)
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look! it's a "couple like us"! [May. 30th, 2008|09:34 am]
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has anyone here seen the tv show firefly or the movie serenity? because wash and zoe strike me as fitting the "couple like us" dynamic.

if i was better at this lj thing i'd give y'all a picture of them. instead here are sites with descriptions of them:


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